Since my diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder I have faced nothing but resistance from Kaiser’s dogmatic behavioral model which stubbornly clings to “evidence based research” conducted on the healthiest and best educated patients in the Behavioral Health System.
I received this quote on a handout at a CPTSD group at Kaiser yesterday:
Watch your thoughts; they become your words
Watch your words, they become your actions,
Watch your actions, they become your habits,
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”
The quote was attributed to a “20th century writer” named Frank Outlaw.
Frank Outlaw wasn’t a writer.
Frank Outlaw was the founder and President of the BI-LO Stores .
“Frank Outlaw founded BI-LO in the Upstate of South Carolina in 1961. In the following years Mr. Outlaw’s chain of stores grew rapidly and by 1977, when Ahold purchased BI-LO, there were 96 stores in the Carolinas and Georgia.
“Frank Outlaw, a former Winn-Dixie executive, bought four Greenville, S.C. grocery stores from the chain Wrenn and Syracuse, to create the Wrenn & Outlaw chain. In 1963, the chain was renamed BI-LO.”
The quote has been traced to other sources but when you change the words and the order of the words you change the meaning.
Here is an 1885 variant of Watch your Thoughts credited to a Bishop Beckwaith.
Plant a thought and reap a word;
plant a word and reap an action;
plant an action and reap a habit;
plant a habit and reap a character;
plant a character and reap a destiny.
The quotes are entirely different.
The first quote is a moral judgment; the second quote is a recommendation.
I was so offended when I read the handout that I told the CPTSD group leader that if she had met me when I was in my late 20’s she would have met someone whose thoughts and actions had nothing at all to do with his character.
I was angry, confused and frightened, and I had every reason to believe that I would soon die from HIV.
How does one watch ones thoughts when one is living in terror?
How do I watch my thoughts when the primary symptom of my illness is loss of behavioral control and memory?
Behaviorists live in a fairy land that excludes daily beatings, institutional racism, hunger, sexual exploitation, religious hypocrisy, incest, rape, a punitive economic system, illiteracy and medical profiteers who think they have the right to toy with broken minds.
Freudian insight has been replaced by mandates from our Behavioral Health System to “watch what we think”.
To see how truly offensive this quote is, examine how it is used in this motivational speech: We don’t need drama anymore what we need is motivation.
“OFW’s has already endured a lot of drama. Drama will not lead us to success but motivation will. There should be no place for drama in OFW’s lives.
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
Late President of the Bi-Lo Stores
Therefore: Think of riches and it will become your destiny…”
I don’t want riches.
I want treatment for Dissociative Identity Disorder.
I want treatment, not classist platitudes from the local Winn Dixie.
(c) Robert Goldstein 2015 All Rights Reserved