If a government is able to show more compassion than your church, maybe you should join another church

Margaret and Helen

Margaret, the news has just been fast and furious this week.  One fugitive dead and one still on the run.  ISIS attacks in France, Kuwait and Tunisia.  Donald Trump becoming the new leader of  the Tea Party.   I wonder what flag that Confederacy of Dunces will fly now that the Stars and Bars is being removed?  Oh and something about a trade bill being passed and God hating America.   That last one seems to be getting the most play over on Fox News.  Never in my life did I think I would live long enough to see the gays persecuting the Christians instead of the other way around.   That was actually a Fox Exclusive!

I read somewhere that Glen Beck has 10,000 to 20,000  pastors ready to die before gay marriage would become legal.   Funny.  I haven’t seen any obituaries printed.  Religious conviction has its limits I guess…

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President Obama’s Amazing Grace

“He (Reverend Pinckney) embodied the idea that our Christian faith demands deeds and not just words, that the sweet hour of prayer actually lasts the whole week long, that to put our faith in action is more than just individual salvation, it’s about our collective salvation, that to feed the hungry, clothe the naked and house the homeless is not just a call for isolated charity but the imperative of a just society.

What a good man. Sometimes I think that’s the best thing to hope for when you’re eulogized, after all the words and recitations and resumes are read, to just say somebody was a good man.”

“When there were laws banning all-black church gatherers, services happened here anyway in defiance of unjust laws. When there was a righteous movement to dismantle Jim Crow, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. preached from its pulpit, and marches began from its steps.

A sacred place, this church, not just for blacks, not just for Christians but for every American who cares about the steady expansion of human rights and human dignity in this country, a foundation stone for liberty and justice for all.

That’s what the church meant.”


According to the Christian tradition, grace is not earned. Grace is not merited. It’s not something we deserve. Rather, grace is the free and benevolent favor of God.

As manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings. Grace — as a nation out of this terrible tragedy, God has visited grace upon us for he has allowed us to see where we’ve been blind.

He’s given us the chance where we’ve been lost to find out best selves. We may not have earned this grace with our rancor and complacency and short-sightedness and fear of each other, but we got it all the same. He gave it to us anyway. He’s once more given us grace. But it is up to us now to make the most of it, to receive it with gratitude and to prove ourselves worthy of this gift. For too long, we were blind to the pain that the Confederate Flag stirred into many of our citizens.

It’s true a flag did not cause these murders. But as people from all walks of life, Republicans and Democrats, now acknowledge, including Governor Haley, whose recent eloquence on the subject is worthy of praise. As we all have to acknowledge, the flag has always represented more than just ancestral pride. For many, black and white, that flag was a reminder of systemic oppression and racial subjugation.

We see that now.

Removing the flag from this state’s capital would not be an act of political correctness. It would not an insult to the valor of Confederate soldiers. It would simply be acknowledgement that the cause for which they fought, the cause of slavery, was wrong.

The imposition of Jim Crow after the Civil War, the resistance to civil rights for all people was wrong.

It would be one step in an honest accounting of America’s history, a modest but meaningful balm for so many unhealed wounds.

It would be an expression of the amazing changes that have transformed this state and this country for the better because of the work of so many people of goodwill, people of all races, striving to form a more perfect union.

By taking down that flag, we express adds grace God’s grace.

But I don’t think God wants us to stop there.

For too long, we’ve been blind to be way past injustices continue to shape the present.

Perhaps we see that now. Perhaps this tragedy causes us to ask some tough questions about how we can permit so many of our children to languish in poverty or attend dilapidated schools or grow up without prospects for a job or for a career.

Perhaps it causes us to examine what we’re doing to cause some of our children to hate.

Perhaps it softens hearts towards those lost young men, tens and tens of thousands caught up in the criminal-justice system and lead us to make sure that that system’s not infected with bias.

That we embrace changes in how we train and equip our police so that the bonds of trust between law enforcement and the communities they serve make us all safer and more secure.

Maybe we now realize the way a racial bias can infect us even when we don’t realize it so that we’re guarding against not just racial slurs but we’re also guarding against the subtle impulse to call Johnny back for a job interview but not Jamal.

So that we search our hearts when we consider laws to make it harder for some of our fellow citizens to vote.

By recognizing our common humanity, by treating every child as important, regardless of the color of their skin.

Or the station into which they were born and to do what’s necessary to make opportunity real for every American. By doing that, we express God’s grace.













The Once a Victim Now a Survivor Award.


I am happy to be nominated for this particular award.

I’ve not seen it before and think it is a wonderful idea.

Thank you to Gentle Kindness for nominating me 🙂

This award is for those who have gone through mental illness of any kind, abuse, trauma, and especially PTSD. Here are the rules:

  1. Thank the blogger that nominated you
  2. Nominate 5 – 10  bloggers to pass the award to
  3. Post 5 questions for your nominees to answer (you may use the same as these below)
  4. Inform your nominees and post a comment in their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated

Here are the questions asked of me.

  1. In what ways do you feel that blogging can help people with psychological trauma  or mental illness?

People with mental illness are the most stigmatized people in the U.S. We cross class and color lines, just as gays do, and just as gays were expected to suffer in silent shame so are we; even as we are denied essential treatments, deprived of resources, and subjected to the death sentence of homeless pauperism.

This is unacceptable.

The only way to end it is for each of us to stand up and join forces and say we are people and we demand fair treatment and the respect that all people deserve. We demand that our treatment providers place human rights above profit.

  1. How has blogging helped you with your healing, or your personal journey?

My trauma expresses itself as Dissociative Identity Disorder. I do not have access to all of my memories. The goal of treatment is some form of integration which will allow me to live without the disruptions caused by trigger switches and lost time. Even if the damage is so severe that I never integrate, I have achieved a high degree of co-operation between my alternates.  I’ve learned by blogging that even though my alternates are not true ‘personalities” they do have a certain degree of autonomy and as such must be treated as if they are true personalities, and honored for the pain they carry.

3. What books, movies, or YouTube channels would you recommend to someone with a similar background to you?

I have benefited from reading The Artists Way, The Haunted Self, and The DBT Workbook. The one YouTube Video that I recommend to anyone who wants to see what Dissociative Identity Disorder really looks like is this HBO Documentary from the 1990’s: Multiple Personality Disorder – Documentary .

It is an honest and fair presentation of DID and the abuse that causes it. It also shows the treatment methods to which we had access in the 1990’s but now don’t, thanks to the current vogue of treating all psychiatric illness as if they are addictions.

4. When did you start your blog and what inspired you?

I opened the blog in late 2013 with the idea of using it in tandem with my Flickr blog.

I soon realized that I had no strategies in place for managing my dissociative disorder as a blogger.

Almost as soon as I started the blog I stopped and took down the few posts I had written. The blog was dormant until October of 2013 when I discovered the blog of a former Kaiser Counselor who was blowing the whistle on Kaisers refusal to comply with Federal and State Parity Laws.

These laws mandate that all health care providers give mental health patients a full spectrum of services based on medical necessity. Our treatment options must be equal to an equivalent physical illness.

For instance, what if we took Schizophrenia as seriously as we take cancer or Alzheimer’s disease?

The law says we shouldn’t still be wondering.

I thought I was imagining the disparity that I saw and experienced at Kaiser until I read Andy Weisskoff’s blog, 90 Days to Change.

I began to use my blog to advocate for better treatment from Kaiser and figured out how to use it to advocate for better treatment for people with Mental Illness in general.


What types of blogs do you follow?

I will follow any blogger who is honest and open-minded. By open-minded I don’t mean that they have to agree with me, believe what I say or condone my “lifestyle” which is a word that I detest. —By open minded I mean respectful of the rights of other people as human beings and those things that we all share in common by virtue of our mortality.

Do you have other blogs?

I have a Flickr account that I enjoy.

I’ve Decided to stay with the questions I was asked so these are my questions. Feel free to skip any questions that you want to skip. You can fill in your own questions.

In what ways do you feel that blogging can help people with psychological trauma  or mental illness?

How has blogging helped you with your healing, or your personal journey?

What books, movies, or YouTube channels would you recommend to someone with a similar background to you?

When did you start your blog and what inspired you? 

What types of blogs do you follow?


These are my nominees:

Heathers Helpers

Hyperion Sturm


Carissa’s world

Kitt O’Malley



Prevent and Treat Childhood Trauma #1000Speak for Compassion

Kitt O'Malley

Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer. An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on.

Nadine Burke Harrishealthcare practice focuses on a little-understood, yet very common factor in childhood that can profoundly impact adult-onset disease: trauma.

via Nadine Burke Harris: How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Talk Video | TED.com.


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