This will be a short post…
My Mother’s younger brother passed away today.
Making contact with my family is always fraught with emotion.
I always have mixed feelings about contact with my biological family; and contact with my Sister leaves me with a sense of pain and longing.
I called my Aunt to give her my condolences.
I don’t know her.
She doesn’t know me.
But we are family and I felt a sense of duty to call this woman and her son.
When she answered the phone I explained who I was and she said, Oh yes!..Robby!
Oh yes…Robby…whose anguish is eternal.
I swallowed Robby’s pained wince and I gave my Aunt my condolences.
The call took less than a minute but I’ve spent the past three hours with memories I didn’t know I had…
I remembered the night my Uncle brought his new girl, my Aunt, to meet the family. We were visiting my Grandmother in New York. Robby was five. My Uncle took this snapshot of Robby in his Grandfather’s lap.
Rest in peace my Mother’s favorite Brother. I’m sad I never got to know you. I’m sad that I don’t know how to feel.
Robby
Sorry for your loss and bless you all!
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Thank you..his passing did throw me off…I always have these delayed responses that often take a week or more to resolve.
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Ooooooh… this touched my heart. Dear little Robbie.
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When I look at that photo I wonder how anyone could have done the things that were done to that little boy.
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Yes.
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This times can be difficult in so many ways, often ways people don’t even think about.
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yes…Thank you for your comment and support
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Awww… hugs
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Thank you. I really appreciate your kindness.
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Sometimes the worst part of grieving is what we wish we’d had. I am sorry for your loss. Peace
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The sad thing is that I lost him decades ago…it’s almost as if my Mother’s brothers divorced themselves from her…and her children.
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Bless you x
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Thank you for your comment.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. xxx
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Thank you..:)
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Condolences to the family…
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Thank you for reading and leaving a comment.
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choose
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As difficult as it maybe, I will record these kinds of memories when this happens to me. I keep a handwritten 3-ring journal. Something about that format seems to capture the pain in a place where I can turn pages, rip them up, or close the book when I chose.
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That’s an excellent idea…thank you the suggestion.
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what an incredibly real, raw and powerful post. I think I got chills just reading it. I am sorry for your loss and I truly hope that you find peace in whats taken place in your life. Sending you lots of positive energy-
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Thank you–it just sorta popped out whole…it was an eternal minute on the phone.
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Sorry to hear that..I give you my condolences, also if you say that you don’t know how to feel for this loss it still something relate to your family and what just happened did bring up to some memories that you didn’t know you had. It still something positive because in that photo Robby looks happy… 🙂
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I wish I could still remember it as clearly as I did yesterday. In retrospect, I understand that the little boy in that photo already had Dissociative Identity Disorder.
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