Let’s Play Dress Up!

I use Second Life because it gives me a chance to play with the kind of wardrobe that will never be mine.

Do I think of this avatar as my body?

I think of it as an escape from the body that I have to endure.

I bet that I’m not the only one in Second Life who wants a better, healthier body.

But until I die and get another chance I will settle for this digital body that I can use to have a little fun in life; and I do love to play dress up.

Credits here:

This outfit is from Gizza and it’s called Hydrangea. Gizza is my favorite designer in SL because they make virtual designs that are easy to wear and interesting.

In this image I’ve dispensed with the hat.

If you are a member of Second Life here is a link to Gizza in the Second Life Market Place.

I always recommend that you get a demo version first.

27 thoughts on “Let’s Play Dress Up!

  1. Oh my avatar looks exactly like me. Always. I mean in RL my hair is always perfect, as is my make-up, and I’m always young, healthy and a size 4, just like in SL. Did you catch the sarcasm font? 🙂

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      1. I hope you don’t look like a Ken doll in all depts in RL! That would take the SL/RL thing a little too far. At least in SL there’s always xcite… or so I’ve heard.

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      2. Oh yes!…the Xcite 690 with the auto-ejac! It’s soooo cool! it’s almost like real except it isn’t! And you can wear it anywhere!

        I use it when I feel like having a runny nose…:)

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    1. That is a photo of Sara’s avatar. Sara is a protector alternate who always comes out when something feels threatening to the younger ones. I’ve been more ‘switchy’ than I’ve been in awhile.

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  2. I don’t know how this may sound now. I am convinced that we get the body and also the way how healthy we are in order to fulfill our life’s purpose. That purpose we chose before we came into this body. That proves to me why even healthy living people can develop serious diseases. The way our body is shaped or in which condition it is keeps us on track. I don’t want anybody being ill. But from that illness so many things develop which would not without those physical limits. Many limits are even only given to overcome and motivate others to not give up any dream. And some limits are given to motivate others to make something out of that limit. Like you are spreading so much awareness and give so deep insights into spheres so many of us (me included) would have never seen. That is what I thank you and everybody so much for choosing a life with physical limits to teach us. Much love and hugs to you, Robert!

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    1. I agree with you Erika,

      I think that not aging would impose limits on our creative abilities.

      One of motivating forces in my life is the awareness of the fact that it will end.

      Aging was a gift to my mind…would I like to be 20 again?

      If I could wear a skin as a temporary suit and go out dancing I might use it….but I would take it off when I was done, sort of the way my alternates use avatars.

      From what I understand of the story of Stephen Hawking; his genius flowered after he became ill.

      In the jungle he would have been lost as soon as he began to lose mobility.

      The whole function of civilization is the improvement of the species with advanced knowledge.

      We don’t need to be physically strong to learn or to make art but we do need to be healthy.

      I think that accepting a disability is a choice and it can only be made after the grieving is done.

      I like the fact that I can use what I do have of my mind’s power to defend myself, speak for myself and others, and collaborate with people from every culture and with every point of view to improve the quality of our lives by improving our hearts and our minds.

      I like the fact that people with conservative and liberal views read my blog and leave comments.

      Ultimately we must let go of the old ways.

      For people with disabilities that means letting go of the idea of the ‘perfect body’ or an illusion of emotional toughness.

      For our culture it means letting go of old ideas regarding class, racial superiority, and a misguided warrior culture that uses our most noble ideas to justify the squalid oppression of weaker nations.

      As far as death, we must die if we are to come back and have another go at life.

      Eternal life in a cybernetic body would be a spiritual tragedy.

      Thanks you Erika for you support of my blog. You are a treasure…:)

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      1. I appreciate your replies a lot too, Robert. I agree, I would never want to be 20 again. Aging as you say is part of our creativity, our development! I don’t even want to look like twenty when being 45. I want everyone to see the ME. I also sometimes ponder what is a perfect body. Where is the measure of what is healthy and what not? Only because one has only 1 leg instead of two, why does that make him incomplete? It makes life more difficult, but it simply is one leg less. Or as I said already (I guess) who decides what is a mental illness and what not? Those people do it who are in the majority… but does that make things right? We have a saying: “Eat shit… 1 billion flies cannot be wrong!” Just thoughts of mine because I think we should look at life simply as it is…. and not always judge it.

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      2. Today I went to see my new doctor. I have panic attacks that began in 2009.

        I decided that it was time for a complete physical in which we rule out all physiological causes.

        As I said to the doctor: If everything looks good you can tell me to go and panic in peace.

        This doctor is new to me. He asked me my age and when I told him he said, “You look very good.”

        I thought, what the hell does that mean?

        I look old, but that only looks bad to young people on the make.

        I know my place in that regard. 🙂

        The comment seems to imply that I’m not meeting some kind of unsavory norm.

        “Wow, you’re ambulatory! You look good!….”

        People confuse me…

        I once knew a guy who was born with one arm and no legs.

        When I met him he was a torso on a skateboard next to a boom box. He was squirming to RUN-DMC – Walk This Way.

        I asked him what’s up and he said he was dancing.

        So I nodded like I wasn’t dumbfounded.

        He must have sensed my confusion because he went on to say, “If I had legs I’d be a dancer, but not having them don’t mean I can’t dance.”

        I was delighted and spent the rest of the afternoon watching him dance…:)

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      3. Yes, it is a matter of perception and also what we make of what we have. Those are all great examples. I also like how you observe everything around you in such detail. I know that can be challenging but it gives life so many more colors.


      4. I appreciate that you are so interested to see that and to discuss it further! I love to see the message behind or at least share what I see in it. In my opinion that is what this interaction thingy should be about. 😊

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    1. Thank you for the comment.

      “Dress up” is actually an elaborate ‘soothing ritual’. Here’s how it works.

      Something happens that distresses my younger alternates. They respond to flashes of memory as if they are fresh events. I ‘see’ the memory and the child alter that lived through it re-lives the moment. When this happens the ‘protector’ alternate emerges. Sara is one of the oldest alternates and evolved into an internal mother surrogate.

      One of the few fond memories I have of my Mother was watching her dress up for a night out. She liked to go clubbing and had excellent taste in clothing. She would talk to me and ask me which gown I liked. These were the only times she was not physically abusive.

      When my Mother left Sara would come out and try on her heels and other things.

      So this is really not so much about the clothing or even the pleasure Sara takes in shopping. This is her replication of something that calmed Robby when when the body was little. She’s never prefaced her pictures with a personal statement before. I didn’t know that she thinks of the body as something she ‘endures’.

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    1. Forgive my confusion…it’s genuine. I’m not sure I know what you get from this. Part of the problem is that I don’t remember posting it….And for some reason I keep wanting to say I’m not transgender and yes, I admit that under the many layers of my gay radicalness and my feminist politics there is a traditional guy that is appalled by having a female alternate…I know it sounds stupid but I guess none of us is immune to hiding little pockets of stupidity…thank you for reading the post and leaving a comment.

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