A Narcissist’s Enablers are also Guilty
I just found this post.
It is the first post on the topic of Narcissism that takes up the problem of enablers who do nothing to stop the abuse or who actively participate in the abuse.
I call it the “Well, he’s always nice to me,” syndrome.
Narcissists are consummate and skillful liars.
By spreading false stories about their target, they are able to win people to their camp.
One characteristic of this personality disorder is apparent lack of conscience or remorse.
Narcissists also have a difficult time with accountability.
If they are confronted about their behavior. they will generally fly into a rage.
There’d be no such thing as narcissistic abuse if it weren’t for the enablers.
These are the folks who sit on the sidelines and watch someone else being whipped.
They could step in, and demand that it stop. They have the power to do so.
All it takes is for one or two courageous souls to say “no, this is not okay.”
But, for various reasons, enablers choose to stay “neutral.”
The narcissist depends upon these weak-willed comrades.
Abusing someone isn’t any fun if it’s only a party of two.
With a crowd, there’s unlimited potential for drama.
The narcissist can pull a lot more strings that way.
If it were just the abuser, and her target, it wouldn’t be worth it to carry out a full-fledged hate campaign.
So, the narcissist works to get others to turn on the target.
The collective betrayal, which comes from the camp of these enablers, is even more devastating than the primary source of abuse.
Not taking a stand to stop someone from being hurt doesn’t absolve you of guilt.
On the contrary, you become an active participant, whether you consider yourself one or not.
Some enablers even take it a step beyond, and switch from idling in neutral to all-out support of the morally disordered person.
They may even turn into “flying monkeys” who carry out small attacks, in order to stay on the bully’s good side.
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