When he became a she – walking in love

I love finding Christians who practice Christianity.

walking in love blogThe other day, Zac and I went into a retail store and were greeted by an associate.

I soon recognized the associate as someone I used to go to church with years ago. Someone close to my age, who I had shared many years sitting next to in our small little church.

But, he had changed.

He was now a she.

I could tell my friend recognized me, but didn’t think I would recognize them. They helped me around the store and their hands were shaking almost uncontrollably the entire time.

I knew why.

They were afraid.

Afraid of what I might say if I caught onto who they were.

Afraid of seeing the shocked Christian look of horror on my face.

Afraid of my judgement or God knows what Bible verses I just might hurl at them.

Afraid of being shamed.

And it BROKE MY HEART.

I decided to…

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Attitudes via Behaviors Part 1: Why Doing is Believing

Excellent post that explores the adaptive function of cognitive dissonance.

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What do humans and capuchin monkeys have in common (besides a lot)? According to Egan, Santos, and Bloom (2007); we both experience cognitive dissonance. Capuchin Monkey closeup by Ivan Mlinaric. CC BY 2.0 What do humans and Capuchin monkeys have in common (besides a lot)? According to Egan, Santos, and Bloom (2007); we both experience cognitive dissonance. Capuchin Monkey closeup by Ivan Mlinaric. CC BY 2.0

It is commonly assumed that our behaviors follow from our attitudes, and under certain conditions this is true. But it is equally accurate to say that our attitudes can result from our behaviors (Myers, 2008).

Leon Festinger and J. Merrill Carlsmith carried out an experiment in 1959 that illustrated this point. They had college students spend one hour performing dull and repetitive tasks, which attitude measures revealed they disliked. Individuals in two separate conditions were then asked to tell the next “participant” (who was actually an experimenter) that the work was enjoyable (Festinger & Carlsmith, 1959).

Curiously, participants awarded just $1 to make these counter-attitudinal statements came to view…

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 81

The unsavory truth.

a cooking pot and twisted tales

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I’m sure that you understand this fact that “not everyone you relate with will like you!”

As a matter of fact, some who don’t even know you well enough may not be particularly keen on you for reasons best known to them.

In the secret recess of their heart, such people experience a certain sense of elation and feel better about themselves when you are down and out.

Are you going to join the gang up against yourself?

Are you going to continue to give them the pleasure of seeing you miserable and bleeding to death?

Why do you think that bad news travels so fast and the harbingers of bad news are in far more available quantities *for the price of nothing* than those who are willing to share any positivity?

Just dwell a bit on it!

The sooner you realize these things and pull up yourself by choosing to…

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