I’ve learned a few things about blogging with Dissociative Identity Disorder in the years since I first posted this.
I’ve learned that most people can’t and won’t understand DID; the people I want in my life are the people who try.
I’ve learned that I do not owe anyone an apology for the DID, nor do I need other people to validate my diagnosis.
I’ve learned that when I’m confused and don’t know what to say, I say nothing.
I’ve learned to understand and accept the limits of what I can accomplish with DID; this is not giving up, it’s acceptance, and with acceptance, comes peace of mind.
I’ve learned that DID makes me vulnerable to online Narcissists. One of my personal rules is to avoid relationships in games like Second Life.
Here are my top 10 tips for blogging with DID.
- Never apologize for speaking your truth.
- Learn as much as you can about your illness
and triggers and keep learning. - There are jerks on every platform: ignore them.
- Take responsibility when you are wrong.
- Avoid making commitments you canβt keep.
- Never leave a negative comment on someone’s blog.
- Thank people when they visit your blog.
- Be grateful for your followers.
- Always treat other bloggers with respect.
- Be yourself, especially when you seem improbable.
Rob Goldstein 2016-2019–2020
“Respect” (C) Rob Goldstein 2016
Wise words here Rob…. Always speak OUR Truth, for we each perceive our world differently than others.. And its Okay if someone’s opinion is different than ours, that is their right also… Its called Freedom of Speech…
Which until more recently it was okay to express it… But it seems today even those freedoms are not so free..
Love all of your tips here, especially about Respecting others.. And its important to be ourselves, number 10.. Even if at times being ourselves means what we express, may not be what others express.. And what we See, maynot be what others see…. But being brave and courageous enough to speak out our truth anyway…
Keep being you…. Sending thoughts your way Rob… Look after you… You are unique and special..
Love and Blessings your way ππ
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Thank you, Sue. I appreciate your kindness and support. π
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I am glad I found this blog and I am grateful that you wrote this blog.β€π
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Thank you, so much. My goal with this blog is to make a safe place for people do discuss trauma and dissociation. Your comment is much appreciated.
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Somehow over th4 yrs I’ve had people just mention mental health so casually but never implemented a useful program that can help people in that sort of serious state.
And its skyrocketing now more than ever before.
Kids are feeling it, teens are experiencing it, and god forbid some parents who may not even handle certain things in reality to cope and may be suicidal.
I’ve seen a few yt celebrities take their own life enough from last year to today.
Cant remember their names atm, I did do a video of them on my twitch, but that’s beside the point.
When are people really gonna address the issue aside from a fee tips and advise.
Empahsise with humans, not treat them like a prescription.
If I ever get the time, and if you actually care to give insight, u should guest star on the podcast I publish on spotify about helping people improve mental health.
It’s called Talks Near Me Podcast, just Google it.
I dont like to spam with links.
Regardless, everyone needs to push more of an effort to help people suffering unprecedented symptoms.
I’m not a doc btw, just someone whose been there and had to pull myself out of it.
Its poison.
Other than that, cool tips.
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Thank you. Are you referring to your YouTube videos?
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Great post! π
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Thank you, Zandra. I just found a new series of lectures on structural dissociation that I’m going to watch and eventually post.
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That’s good to hear! π Keep it up. π
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I think you know that I adore all of you. π
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Thank you for being so kind. π
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Those are 10 great advice, Robert. And they count for everything we are struggling with. We can only raise awareness when we talk about it. Nobody can every expect to be understood if nobody know that there is something to be understood!
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I agree, Erika. We can’t understand everything bit we can expand our minds to accept different possibilities. Thanks for reading and leaving a comment. π
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Exactly, the ability to accept and respect. You are very welcome, Robert!
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I think most of what your tips are good sense for bloggers in general. We should all be kind and considerate of others. You are always that, Rob. π
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I agree with you. Good manners can be grounding.
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Respect and honesty can go together..just depends how it is phrased…in my case often a bit to ‘direct’…and I agree with you Robert it is sometimes (often) better to say nothing at all.
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Thank you, Paula. I tend to jam up when I’m confused. Soemtimes I have so many different reactions to a situation that I freeze.
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Great post and I agree 100%. Keep being you. π
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I feel you Rob..and i am always grateful to see you with your lovely comments.
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Thank you.:)
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You are always respectful in comments, as well as honest. Thank you for that.
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Thank you, Christy. I get behind but I always reply. π
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perfect advice! π
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Thank you for stopping by.
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my pleasure.
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As always, such a thoughtful post.
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Thank you Paula. Some of this stuff was learned in the school of hard knocks. π
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Great advice Robert, and I do like Sly And The Family Stone……
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I haven’t thought of them in decades. They were good!
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Yes,, I’ve still got an old vinyl theirs !!
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“My therapist insists that all the alternates are me even as they
insist weβre not.” This statement made us sad for all of you. We had a therapist like this. He demanded me to stay present and focused. He said said we were all one person. 4 years of this. Then I crashed and stopped treatment for 14 years! Now we have a therapist who sees all of us and individual and treats us as such. He does work with helping us co-operate with each other. I hope you find someone who will treat you all with respect that every individual deserves.
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I need to clarify that line. What my therapist means is that all of the alternates are me even as they function as separate ‘selves’. We are also working on co-operation. I am more likely than my therapist to resist accepting my alternates as real. Thank you for your comment and giving me the opportunity to clarify.
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Reblogged this on Creativity From Within.
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Thank you for the re-blog!
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You are welcome
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True words
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Thanks!
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It’s all so very complicated, Rob. I just can’t imagine how difficult this is for you. But we love your writing, your blog, all of you. π
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I’m about to blog something about EMDR — thank you for accepting all of me…;)
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I always find you to be deeply thoughtful, highly intelligent, and somewhat magical. Keep posting because we are learning. G-uno
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Thank you. Your comment makes me smile….
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Most welcome, and most sincerely meant. G-uno
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She sounds like such a wonderful soul!
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I think the world of her. G-uno
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i use a notebook where we exchange notes. Do you have anything similar that helps communication?
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Right now they like to get together in Second Life. Not all of them but some of them. I’ve started EMDR with my therapist to see if we can get them to communicate with each other in a way that is healthier.
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how do they communicate so far?
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They go in to Second Life and dance with each other.
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‘7. Treat everyone with respect, especially those who may want to do you harm.’
I agree π
excellent post.
Cheers, Gavin.
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Thank you.
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So did u follow my blog or was it an alter?
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They’re all me. I followed your blog.
But the question is fair…
You were followed by the one called Rob Goldstein.
That one writes the travelogue.
Addendum: I didn’t check your status before submitting my reply–based on the content I
assumed that the alternate that followed you was Rob Goldstein. Your blog is well written
and powerful. But when I checked the status I see that none of me has followed you…
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I know just wanted to make certain you remembered doing it given your post. I’m also kind of a smartass, sorry lol.
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LOL–I’m glad you have a sense of humor about it! I had forgotten–but that has nothing to do with you.
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I think in life so much bad happens u have to laugh as much as possible to be happy. Have a great day!
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Agreed!
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I’ve been reading your blog since I started blogging Rob. To be honest I’m not entirely sure if I’ve noticed much of switching between you and your alters. Sometimes I see more artwork posted, sometimes I notice you comment a lot more. I love reading your blog regardless of which one of you has written or posted it. I may have only know of you for the last month and usually it takes a while for me to say I accept and trust someone for who they are but I accept, approve and trust all of you. You are an amazing person and writer regardless of who you are from day to day.
P.S I still want to steal some artwork for my blog!!!!!!
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You’re welcome to link to it. Actually my artwork links to my Flickr stream and that is set up for sharing. So you can link to most of the pictures you see on my blog–and thank you for your great comment; it’s gratifying.
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Congrats I nominate you for the Encouraging Thunder Award! http://lifeofanelpasowoman.com/2015/05/28/encouraging-thunder-award/
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Thank you–I just got that award but it’s always great to be nominated!
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Keep in mind that it’s also difficult for those of us who follow your blog, not knowing which personality is posting. Not realizing if and when you disappear into someone else. But if I accept one part of you, then I have no trouble accepting all parts of you. Because separate or combined, they make up a pretty unique individual. π
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Thank you. I know that it can be difficult but I don’t what the experience is like.
Anyone who wants to tell me what it’s like to follow my blog has my full support.
And thank you for the last comment. π
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Thank you.
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