Graffiti in Clarion alley, San Francisco, the word Respect painted on a fence

#MentalHealth: Ten Tips for Blogging With DID

I’ve learned a few things about blogging with Dissociative Identity Disorder in the years since I first posted this.

I’ve learned that most people can’t and won’t understand DID; the people I want in my life are the people who try.

I’ve learned that I do not owe anyone an apology for the DID, nor do I need other people to validate my diagnosis.

I’ve learned that when I’m confused and don’t know what to say, I say nothing.

I’ve learned to understand and accept the limits of what I can accomplish with DID; this is not giving up, it’s acceptance, and with acceptance, comes peace of mind.

I’ve learned that DID makes me vulnerable to online Narcissists. One of my personal rules is to avoid relationships in games like Second Life.

Here are my top 10 tips for blogging with DID.

  1. Never apologize for speaking your truth.
  2. Learn as much as you can about your illness
    and triggers and keep learning.
  3. There are jerks on every platform: ignore them.
  4. Take responsibility when you are wrong.
  5. Avoid making commitments you can’t keep.
  6. Never leave a negative comment on someone’s blog.
  7. Thank people when they visit your blog.
  8. Be grateful for your followers.
  9. Always treat other bloggers with respect.
  10. Be yourself, especially when you seem improbable.

Rob Goldstein 2016-20192020

“Respect” (C) Rob Goldstein 2016








73 thoughts on “#MentalHealth: Ten Tips for Blogging With DID

  1. Wise words here Rob…. Always speak OUR Truth, for we each perceive our world differently than others.. And its Okay if someone’s opinion is different than ours, that is their right also… Its called Freedom of Speech…
    Which until more recently it was okay to express it… But it seems today even those freedoms are not so free..

    Love all of your tips here, especially about Respecting others.. And its important to be ourselves, number 10.. Even if at times being ourselves means what we express, may not be what others express.. And what we See, maynot be what others see…. But being brave and courageous enough to speak out our truth anyway…

    Keep being you…. Sending thoughts your way Rob… Look after you… You are unique and special..
    Love and Blessings your way πŸ’šπŸ™

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  2. Somehow over th4 yrs I’ve had people just mention mental health so casually but never implemented a useful program that can help people in that sort of serious state.
    And its skyrocketing now more than ever before.
    Kids are feeling it, teens are experiencing it, and god forbid some parents who may not even handle certain things in reality to cope and may be suicidal.
    I’ve seen a few yt celebrities take their own life enough from last year to today.
    Cant remember their names atm, I did do a video of them on my twitch, but that’s beside the point.
    When are people really gonna address the issue aside from a fee tips and advise.
    Empahsise with humans, not treat them like a prescription.
    If I ever get the time, and if you actually care to give insight, u should guest star on the podcast I publish on spotify about helping people improve mental health.
    It’s called Talks Near Me Podcast, just Google it.
    I dont like to spam with links.
    Regardless, everyone needs to push more of an effort to help people suffering unprecedented symptoms.
    I’m not a doc btw, just someone whose been there and had to pull myself out of it.
    Its poison.
    Other than that, cool tips.

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  3. Those are 10 great advice, Robert. And they count for everything we are struggling with. We can only raise awareness when we talk about it. Nobody can every expect to be understood if nobody know that there is something to be understood!

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  4. Respect and honesty can go together..just depends how it is phrased…in my case often a bit to ‘direct’…and I agree with you Robert it is sometimes (often) better to say nothing at all.

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  5. “My therapist insists that all the alternates are me even as they
    insist we’re not.” This statement made us sad for all of you. We had a therapist like this. He demanded me to stay present and focused. He said said we were all one person. 4 years of this. Then I crashed and stopped treatment for 14 years! Now we have a therapist who sees all of us and individual and treats us as such. He does work with helping us co-operate with each other. I hope you find someone who will treat you all with respect that every individual deserves.

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    1. I need to clarify that line. What my therapist means is that all of the alternates are me even as they function as separate ‘selves’. We are also working on co-operation. I am more likely than my therapist to resist accepting my alternates as real. Thank you for your comment and giving me the opportunity to clarify.

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    1. They’re all me. I followed your blog.

      But the question is fair…

      You were followed by the one called Rob Goldstein.

      That one writes the travelogue.

      Addendum: I didn’t check your status before submitting my reply–based on the content I
      assumed that the alternate that followed you was Rob Goldstein. Your blog is well written
      and powerful. But when I checked the status I see that none of me has followed you…

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  6. I’ve been reading your blog since I started blogging Rob. To be honest I’m not entirely sure if I’ve noticed much of switching between you and your alters. Sometimes I see more artwork posted, sometimes I notice you comment a lot more. I love reading your blog regardless of which one of you has written or posted it. I may have only know of you for the last month and usually it takes a while for me to say I accept and trust someone for who they are but I accept, approve and trust all of you. You are an amazing person and writer regardless of who you are from day to day.
    P.S I still want to steal some artwork for my blog!!!!!!

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    1. You’re welcome to link to it. Actually my artwork links to my Flickr stream and that is set up for sharing. So you can link to most of the pictures you see on my blog–and thank you for your great comment; it’s gratifying.

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  7. Keep in mind that it’s also difficult for those of us who follow your blog, not knowing which personality is posting. Not realizing if and when you disappear into someone else. But if I accept one part of you, then I have no trouble accepting all parts of you. Because separate or combined, they make up a pretty unique individual. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you. I know that it can be difficult but I don’t what the experience is like.

      Anyone who wants to tell me what it’s like to follow my blog has my full support.

      And thank you for the last comment. πŸ™‚

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