7 Limits to Set With A Malignant Narcissist Before You Go No Contact

Set these 7 limits with a narc before you go no contact, but only if you
feel confident and want to leave room to salvage the relationship.

1. I will no longer tolerate of your lies.

2. I will never pretend that you don’t lie to me.

3. I will never pretend that it’s acceptable for you
to treat me as if I’m blind and stupid.

4. I will never pretend that playing gaslight is not the
behavior of a psychologically abusive perp.

5. Your pathology is damaging to my health and I expect
you to learn to manage it.

6. If you want friendship with me behave the way a friend
behaves when caught in a lie: apologize.

7. You can make this right by writing an apology with a
promise that you will stop lying to me and about me.

Don’t expect the narc to be nice about this.

Narcs react to limit setting as if they’ve been shot.

That’s it.

Then go no contact until you get the written apology as requested.

One last thing: don’t expect an apology.

Infographic that details the traits of women who are pathological narcissists
Traits of a female Narcissist

 

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Gratitude & Everyday Life

From Living a Beautiful Life

Living a Beautiful Life

An important element of happiness is gratitude.  It’s easy to be grateful when our lives are significantly enriched. For example, we’re promoted, we purchase a house, we go on a dream vacation, we get a publishing deal, our album goes platinum, we soar through Death Valley in our matte black Lamborghini Aventador. How do we bottle up this feeling and sprinkle it over all of our days?

How to Practice Gratitude Every Day

Gratitude isn’t only for significant events and major successes. When we pay attention we notice that our days — every one — give us much to be grateful for.  All we have to do is recognize and appreciate the beauty. How do we do this? Reflect on what went well or what you enjoyed about today.

Still stuck?  Start with the (seemingly) small. What would you really miss if it were gone from your life?  Examples:

  • Coffee, tea or clear water in…

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When Lost Don’t Panic…7 Simple Tips To Find Yourself When Lost.

from acookingpotandtwistedtales

a cooking pot and twisted tales

Marking, Path, Direction

When lost don’t panic,

just leave little marks of hope on your path

and

they will lead you home.

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Jacqueline

There are times that we feel overwhelmingly lost, but this doesn’t mean that your life is doomed. It spells a transition and transformation. The key is not to get stuck in your current rut, but to tap into your hopeful and creative power to redirect your steps back to the life and you that you love.

Apply these 7 simple tips as often as you need to help yourself out of that state.

1. Listen. 

With the frenetic lifestyle that we live and the persistent mind chatter, it’s easy to drown out those signs that speak to us, which is why it’s important to create silence and listen. Life offers us divine messages through various means – songs, billboards, books, nature, the people we meet etc. When we keep…

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