When it is Time to go to the Hospital: 11 Steps to Take Before Admission

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Self Portrait in Lavender

This post is specific to people with Dissociative and other Trauma
related disorders.

Some of this information may not apply to you.

I don’t do well in mental health settings.

I don’t look sick.

I don’t look like a ‘mental patient’.

And I expect my treatment providers to be as passionate as I was when
I worked in mental health.

If you have what most people still call multiple personality disorder and
you are about to enter treatment at a Behavioral Health facility it’s a good
idea to prepare.

(1)

Don’t assume that behavioral health professionals are trained psychotherapists. Psychotherapy treats the mind. Behavioral Health
treats targeted behaviors.

 

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Stand up against stigma


(2)

If your primary treatment provider is an outside therapist, ask him or
her to communicate your treatment status and history to the facility.

(3)

Confirm that the counselors at the treatment facility have spoken to
your primary therapist when you arrive for your first day.

(4)

Ask if the staff knows how to treat trauma symptoms.

(5)

Do not enable staff ignorance; you have every right to expect your treatment providers to know what they’re treating and to know how to treat it. Speak to the attending psychiatrist if you have concerns. If that fails, make use of grievance procedures to get the most out of your treatment.

(6)

Do treat the staff with respect and consideration. Most people want to do a good job.

(7)
Do tell the staff about suicidal thoughts or self-destructive alternates.

(8)
Discuss your physical health and if one is needed, ask for a physical.

(9)

If you are diabetic or have high blood pressure, ask the staff to monitor your blood pressure and sugar levels. Diabetes and high blood pressure affect mood.

(10)

Ask for a medication assessment.  Mention all unusual side
effects or problems.

(11)

Don’t enter a hospital or day clinic alone. Ask your partner and
friends to call and ask about your progress.  Make sure that you sign
the releases the clinic needs to discuss your case with friends and
family.

More reading:

 

Advocacy for mental health: roles for consumer and family organizations and governments

The Importance of Self-Advocacy in Mental Health Recovery


The Self Advocacy Toolkit

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5 reasons why you need to stop pushing your sick self 

This is important information for everyone who lives with a chronic illness.

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I know,I know, we want to push ourselves no matter what the consequences may be. We want to prove that we can be okay even when our bodies are attempting to kill themselves.and besides,if we always give in the flares,when will we get anything done. 

But letting your body heal is super important.here are five things I tell myself to keep me in bed-even when its the place I want to be.I’m sharing them with you in the hope it will help you too.so what are waiting for?lets go!!!!

First off,lets talk about spoons and spoonies. I actually learned this term pretty late in the game,when I started social media networking with others with chronic illness.

So what are spoonies?

Spoonies are people that live with chronic illness; theoretically measuring personal daily abilities much as one would measure the proper amount of spoons needed for an event or occasion… sometimes…

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The 7 things narcissists are most afraid of.

Excellent post:

If you call out a narcissist on their abusive behavior, they will usually become very angry. Their anger might be expressed in rage or in more covert means such as the silent treatment or gaslighting you. They don’t like to be held accountable for the things they do to others, because that means they have to admit they are less than perfect. It also means they have to acknowledge the humanity of someone else, which they aren’t capable of doing. Narcissists are all too aware of their imperfections, but only at the subconscious level, and the way they handle this is to project their own imperfections onto you. So a narcissist might tell you that YOU are the narcissistic one, or that YOU are the abuser. They’re also good at getting others to side against you, and those people become their flying monkeys. They will accuse you of doing things that they themselves have done and everyone believes them and not you.

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I was actually going to try to post funny search terms again, but alas, they were just not funny, so I nixed that idea.  However, I did find one that inspired me to write this post:

what 6 things are narcissist most scared of

It’s a good question.  Are narcissists afraid of anything? You bet they are, and there are 7 things that scare them silly, not just 6.

1. Abandonment and rejection.

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Narcissists can’t stand being rejected or abandoned.   That’s why they fly into rages and punish and threaten you if you threaten to leave them, and love bomb you if you do manage to get away.  To reject a narcissist means you are rejecting the false self they have so carefully constructed to impress you.  To reject that false self negates their entire reason for existing, since whatever true self they may have left is completely inaccessible…

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Eight fun games narcissists like to play (and one they can’t play).

Narcissists are masters at playing mind games. They play to win and take no prisoners. They are poor losers and if they don’t win they will often react in a fit of rage and stomp away like a little child. The only way for the other person to win is to not play.

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Here are eight games that are lots of fun for one of the players: the narcissist who initiates them. And like the overgrown babies they are, if you refuse to play or appear to be winning their game, they will pout, whine or throw a tantrum until you concede or let them win. This is a humorous yet serious look at the many games narcissists like to play, from the website The Narcissistic Life. Don’t play these games. Let them sulk and whine all by their widdle selves. Take the ball and go home.

Games Narcissists Play
Written by Alexander Burgemeester

Narcissists are masters at playing mind games. They play to win and take no prisoners. They are poor losers and if they don’t win they will often react in a fit of rage and stomp away like a little child. The only way for the other person to win…

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