How to Help Your Children Become Responsible and Community-Focused

from When Women Inspire

When Women Inspire

Parents want their kids to grow up with the right priorities and values, and that’s a good thing. One of the most important things of all to many people is a sense of community and collaboration. Getting along with the people around you is good and positive, and it’s something to try to instill in your children too. You’ll want them to be a part of the community and to enjoy their role in it, so how can you make that happen?

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MHA Infographic: Things Adults Say That Hurt Instead of Help

Treating our kids with respect is the way to a more civil society. Thank you Kitt O’Malley for posting this!

Kitt O'Malley

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My Dad

A powerful post about child abuse.


To the man who beat me with a strap, came home drunk most every night, has never remembered my birthday, has told me time and time again that I am an idiot, held a gun to my head, abused my mom and my older brother, made sure I knew that I wouldn’t amount to anything, that I made stupid decisions. To the man who pulled me aside the day before we buried my brother and best friend who had just been murdered to tell me that it would have been easier if it had been me. To that man, my father, who in rare moments of playing “daddy” and being sober taught me to fish, to change a tire, to plant vegetables, what you’ve done in my past has made today pure torture. I hate you but I love you.

I have spent every Father’s Day trying to find that…

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7 Ways to Silence Survivors

The only thing more painful than the rape is being told to ‘just get over’ acts of abuse that shattered your life.

Talking of incest

Hello Friends

The 7 ways to Silence Survivors of incest represents recurrent themes that play out within families of Survivors once they’ve disclosed what happened. I’ve become aware of these themes over the years from talking to other Survivors and thought I’d illustrate them with my own story in the hope that it will resonate with you.  (My guess is that the “7 ways” will resonate with all Survivors of all types of childhood sexual abuse and survivors of sexual abuse in adulthood too.)

These responses from family members are understandable because they relate to the ways in which family members try to protect themselves and the family unit. It’s understandable because non abusing family members are secondary victims of the abuse, and now they must do everything in their power to protect themselves. This means everything right up to and including ostracising the original victim.

Such behaviour is indeed understandable; and I find it is helpful for me…

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