The outsider

from TheFeatheredSleep

TheFeatheredSleep

38638686_1843766582406138_8072796370370560000_nshe wasn’t like them, so they didn’t like her

to her face they smiled and said ‘nice things’

which she knew were lies

behind her back they laughed

and made dirty-lezzie jokes

because it made them uncomfortable

to think about what they thought she did

it made them feel a bit disgusted

like when you stand too close

she looked like them in superficial ways

wore at times, nicer dresses and had longer hair

the fact that she liked girls wasn’t in their

comfort zone

when it was summer time they had

BBQ’s and invited all the neighborhood kids

wondering if she would be safe around minors or

would do something inappropriate

when they started a mommy running club

she wasn’t invited because she was neither

a mommy or someone they wanted to

bare their secrets with

what would she understand of husbands?

maybe their husbands liked her

because…

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Pride 2018: The United States of Everyone

This Pride Month, 2018, let us speak of liberation

 

Photyograph of a sign at an anti-Trump Rally which reads an Injury to one is an Injury to all
An Injury to One is an Injury to All

I am a proud warrior for social justice.

I’ve been at it for most of my life.

I am not nostalgic for the gay and feminist movements
of the late 20th Century.

I see these movements as unfinished business.

The Civil Rights Movement is not over.

To paraphrase Hillary Clinton:

The civil rights of people of color are Human Rights

The civil rights of women are Human Rights

The civil rights of LGBTQ people are Human Rights.

The Civil Rights of Immigrants are Human Rights.

The right of equal access to schools, housing and medical care
are Human Rights.

We seek the liberation of all human beings from all forms
of bondage

This Pride Month, 2018,  let us speak of liberation.

Let us unite with people of good will regardless of race, creed, gender,
gender identity, sexuality, religion, and political affiliation; let us unite to
liberate ourselves from the stifling oppression of a corrupt and toxic patriarchy.

(c) Rob Goldstein 2018

So You Want to Wear a Safety Pin

If you are thinking of wearing a safety pin, read this.

What a Witch

rainbow-safety-pin

Great. This is a necessary behavior in the face of the election of the most overtly racist, sexist, xenophobic, anti- gender and sexual minority candidate in the history of the modern United States. You know the rhetoric of his campaign was wrong. It was the very worst thing about America and you want to do what you can to combat the result. Good. Do that.

But don’t do it without a plan. Because the very last thing a tense situation needs is someone full of good intentions but with no knowledge of de-escalation tactics or self-defense. Your intentions are not a tangible shield. If you don’t make a plan, you will get yourself or the person you are trying to defend very killed.

Let’s avoid that.

So make a plan.

Some of you can stop reading now. You have, or know how to make a plan and you don’t need…

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Old Friends: Our 24th Anniversary

A photo of My Partner Jaime and I reflected on a sunny San Francisco Day in the window of a passing tour bus
My Partner, Jaime and I, reflected in the window of a passing tour bus. When I showed him this shot and asked him what he was thinking, he replied, “There he goes with that camera again.”

I met Jaime 24 years ago this week.

Yes, it was love at first sight and I know that sounds trite, but if it has ever
or will ever happen to then you will understand how profound it is.

We moved in together two months later and we have been together ever since.

He’s seen me through the darkest days of my illness; and I wept and grieved
with him when his Father sickened with cancer and died.

He is a proud Nicaraguan man and a proud citizen of the United States.

He is among my oldest and most trusted friends.

He is my partner and he is my joy.

Happy Anniversary, Jaime.

Happy Anniversary mi amore.

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