(What abusive people have in common) are a complete lack of empathy, conscience, remorse, guilt, shame, or regard for human suffering. And a complete sense of entitlement and deep selfishness.
Apaths – I can’t be bothered to be concerned about abuse. Who cares. Boring. I know people who say they are being abused. I ignore it. Not my problem, is it? And I like that person they said was an abuser.
Egocentrics – Abuse doesn’t affect me, so why should I care? They should deal with their own problems behind closed doors and not bother others. Now can we get back to my problems.
Narcissists – I think it’s fine to use people, treat people badly, then lie, deny, project, if you need to. That’s life. Everyone does it. Don’t criticise me, or I will have a tantrum and deny it all. And if all else fails, I’ll act the victim, whilst starting a vindictive smear campaign.
Sociopaths – I do plan exploiting and hurting others, because I think it’s funny to watch people get upset. It’s not my problem…
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From July to December of last year a narcissist was comment bombing me.
That was when I completed the abstract, Watch Out For Snakes.
I got as many as twelve long diatribes a week and made
screenshots before deleting them unread.
I went through my screenshots tonight and re-read that comment.
It’s pure word salad.
When I first met the narcissist I was drawn to what I wanted to
think was a child like imagination.
On some level I must have known that what I’d met was another
self-centered two-year old that as an adult turns vicious.
I laugh as I read the comment now and yet I have mixed feelings.
The primary symptom of narcissism is the delusional idea that
everyone else must agree that he is obviously superior.
Eventually everyone finds something about the narcissist
It’s when you question the narcissist that they turn on you.
Add lack of empathy and what you get is an entitled sociopath.
The narcissist thinks he can beat everyone into submission and
he tries until everyone who might love his sorry ass goes away.
The narcissist never knows the cleansing that comes from giving a
heartfelt apology or the grace of being forgiven.
I suppose I can thank God that all I’ve got to deal with is DID.
You can treat DID.
I don’t know how you can treat someone who doesn’t know that
the brilliant comment he’s just posted is utter nonsense.
If you have any ideas on how we can heal the narcissist please leave them.
Disclaimer: the screenshot in this post is of a public comment. This was not a private email.
Words and image by Rob Goldstein (c) 2016
Text on the screenshot by The Narcisist
Quote: “We must imprint this message in our minds that at the core of the Narcissist’s psychopathy is a mindset governed by their grandiosity, lack of empathy for others, and a grand sense of entitlement and superiority that places them above laws and morality. The Narcissist grossly overestimates their abilities and accomplishments and underestimates the complete being of their target/victim. Simply put, the Narcissist should be able to do anything they wish, however harmful and destructive, because the Narcissist is better than others.”
From my Book: From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist.
Admitting faults, or taking responsibility for their harmful actions would take some degree of empathy of which Narcissists have NONE. It is virtually impossible for the Narcissist to put themselves in other people’s shoes and seeing him/herself as causing harm and destruction. Not only is the Narcissist incapable of this it also repulses them to believe they are anything less than perfect. Remember the Narcissist is omnipotent and as such is superior and always in charge of their delusional world. They will never put themselves in a position where they would even consider anything negative or wrong about their own self-absorbed and tyrannical nature – this would be a weakness on their part. If you were to point out something they have done wrong they will turn around and deny it first and THEN point…
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