The only thing more painful than the rape is being told to ‘just get over’ acts of abuse that shattered your life.
The 7 ways to Silence Survivors of incest represents recurrent themes that play out within families of Survivors once they’ve disclosed what happened. I’ve become aware of these themes over the years from talking to other Survivors and thought I’d illustrate them with my own story in the hope that it will resonate with you. (My guess is that the “7 ways” will resonate with all Survivors of all types of childhood sexual abuse and survivors of sexual abuse in adulthood too.)
These responses from family members are understandable because they relate to the ways in which family members try to protect themselves and the family unit. It’s understandable because non abusing family members are secondary victims of the abuse, and now they must do everything in their power to protect themselves. This means everything right up to and including ostracising the original victim.
Such behaviour is indeed understandable; and I find it is helpful for me…
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